Myth-Busting Executive Functioning Challenges

Executive functioning skills—like planning, organization, and task management—are often misunderstood in neurodivergent individuals with autism and ADHD. Misconceptions about these challenges can lead to unfair labels like “lazy” or “unmotivated.” Let’s break down the myths and reveal the truth.

Here’s what you’ll find in this post:

1. Myth: “If she just tried harder, she could be more organised.”

• Fact: Executive functioning challenges aren’t a matter of willpower or effort. They’re neurological differences that impact the ability to plan, prioritize, and follow through. Support and external strategies can help, but “trying harder” isn’t the solution.

2. Myth: “She’s just procrastinating.”

• Fact: Procrastination in neurodivergent individuals often stems from task paralysis, anxiety, or time blindness. It’s not about avoiding the task—it’s about difficulty starting due to an overwhelming mental barrier.

3. Myth: “She should know better by now.”

• Fact: Executive function development doesn’t follow the same timeline for everyone. Neurodivergent girls and women may need longer to develop certain skills and benefit from supportive structures to thrive.

Why does this matter?

Recognising that executive functioning challenges are part of how the brain works (and not a lack of effort) allows us to create supportive, understanding environments. With the right tools and patience, these challenges can be managed in ways that build confidence and growth.