Myth-Busting Social Skills in Autism

Autistic girls and women often face misconceptions about their social skills. Many assume that autism means a lack of interest in friendships or an inability to communicate effectively. In reality, social differences in autism are often misunderstood. Let’s break down the myths and uncover the truth.

Here’s what you’ll find in this post:

1. Myth: “She doesn’t seem autistic—she’s so social!”

Fact: Many autistic girls develop strong social skills through masking. They may appear outgoing or talkative, but that doesn’t mean socialising is easy or enjoyable for them. It can be exhausting trying to “keep up.”

2. Myth: “She doesn’t care about making friends.”

Fact: Autistic individuals can deeply value friendships but may struggle with social norms, small talk, or understanding unspoken rules. They might prefer deeper, more meaningful connections over surface-level interactions.

3. Myth: “If she can make eye contact, she can’t be autistic.”

Fact: Not all autistic people avoid eye contact. Some may force themselves to make eye contact despite discomfort, while others naturally don’t find it difficult. Eye contact is not a reliable measure of autism.

Why does this matter?
Understanding these myths allows for greater acceptance and support. Autistic girls and women experience social interactions differently, and recognising their unique needs can help create more inclusive and understanding environments.